thinking of another way for family courts... ( :

[2ez]

alo all n much love ( :

I love my children, but my ex is playin games & using the legalese side of things to do her best to stop me from seeing them... Now I could go down the same root as her, But I know this is the wrong thing 2do... As the mother automatically gets parental responsiblity and as I was not married or named on both of my babies birth certs, I know I have to get either my ex 2 sign a statutoury aknowledgement of parentage or go thro the courts for parental responsibility and contact after going thro mediation... 2which i can truthfully say that if i did or do go thro the courts on the normal route I would have a lot of truthful grounds to stand upon... But my biggest fear is not of the games she will play, But of even the slightest chance of my babies taken by social services ) :

I have been in the past a rogue ie: prison 4 (theft,fraud,violence,drugs,fines & drivin whilst banned)

however my last sentence 10months in 2006 for drivin whilst banned & nonpayment of fines £2,500 for drivin previously in various cars over 9yrz ( non of which wer compo fines) 2which i can honestly state that i nether once crash or hit any1 whilst drivin...

previous to 2006... 1996 was what i promised to myself that, that would be the last time in prison for me and to become a non-active criminal... 2which i did and still do ( :

[enegiss]

brother i lost a child to the "sir vices" not Good, is it worth letting your children grow up without all the Drama, my honest answer would be "yes" kids are resilient and when they get a little older....., keep intouch with their happy times, stay away from the services, they are ruthless.

if the kids are well looked after, thank your lucky stars mate, my kids mum, well... shalnt go into details

hope it works out for you all

[2ez]

alo enegiss n thank u ( :

I have another 3 teenagers by another ex & have been thro this route b4, 2 which i got P.R. & CONTACT... I didnt expect to get anything at that time due 2 the violent crimes on only police may i add...

Within the last couple of yrz, I have read up on the human rights Act, data protection Act, family legalese and now i'm shufflin thro common law...

my ex did have a solicitor b4, 2 which I personally was writing directly to thro emails, 2 which the ex tried the old gag of harassment & intimidation, so I put it 2 her solicitor that if they want court about this then i would want times/dates/place of court as i have the right 2 defend myself... next letter i got in the post was statin that the solicitor is no longer representin the ex? anyway now she has moved & got another solicitor & so I went & got a solicitor, 2 which mine is useless lol, but now i'm finkin either use this solicitor just 2 get in 2 court, or go L.I.P.? and try n bring this 2 court juris n out of the court de facto ( :

[biodegradablepsycho]

Hmm i dont have any kids i know about and so maybe shouldnt comment. I also didnt have any parents either really so im probably out of my depth. I understand that you wish to see your children and my belief is that if your children wish to see you then no one should stop that happening.
I am aware that the legal route always seems like hell and seldom resolves the matter in the best interest of anyone. I imagine all of us male or female have exes that we have had hard times with, and a human condition is often to wish to hurt or punish someone we perceive has wronged us in some way.
Taking the legal route just seems like a perpetuation of a fight that can go on for years.
I have no idea why your ex is witholding access to your children and i have no idea whether that is reasonable or not. If i was in your shoes i would try and avoid the legal route. I would try and make peace with the ex rather than continuing a fight through the courts which seems to do nothing other than making people more stubborn and unreasonable. If her problem is with your character that has led you to prison then perhaps showing her you are a reformed character and a loving, caring, reasonable father and a good role model might help. Obviously this will require great strength and patience on your part. Best of luck

[2ez]

I am aware that the legal route always seems like hell and seldom resolves the matter in the best interest of anyone. I imagine all of us male or female have exes that we have had hard times with, and a human condition is often to wish to hurt or punish someone we perceive has wronged us in some way.

hi,
U both are rite in my point of view, but I'm not lookin 2 hurt, punish or justice in any format ( : all i want is 2 c my children grow up... i do know why she is doin this, its all down 2 her way of controllin me and this in turn is emotional blackmail, as in she has already stated that i do not want 2 c my children and various other untruths, so in a way it wud b easier 4 me 2 walk away from this situation... or stand my ground and just go 4 all or nothin as i have nuffin... i know the courts are slo n only about monies & there's no real truth 2 "best interest's of the child" But my real goal for this case is not only 2 c my babies... but also try 2 change this system 4 the better of all woman/men equal and yes this is 1 hell of a huge risk on my part, but if i can do it then it will show precendents 4 all others 2 follow case ( :

[biodegradablepsycho]

hey mate i didnt suggest it was you necessarily who wished to hurt or punish. i just pointed to a truth about human nature as i see it. Unhelpfully i cannot see your reply now i am trying to answer you, but i think you mentioned precedent and helping others through your actions. it sounds very self less and admirable. But personally i think you should only consider how best to move forward for all of your family, your ex and self included. You perceive your ex as trying to control, but if you have a good heart and the best interest for all, patience and compassionate kindness , her attempts at control really have no effect.
Im not sure it is helping you to see the situation in massive extremes, but it is understandable. I think it would help if you changed your view on how you can deal with this, either having to walk away or standing ground and going for all or nothing. You have other ways to deal with this,that of forgiving and making peace. Best of luck

[2ez]

sorry i didnt word it proply as in hurt or 2 win case... i ment it from my own view, and yes ur rite about i shud b lookin out 4 my family... this is the second time i have taken on the ex's solicitors and this is the second solicitor or the ex that has dropped the case again, 2 which i have bin personally writing 2 both of these solicitors thro email n neva a fone all... the main reason 4 this is 2 try and amicably set up weekends stay overs 4 my babies without the court case ( : wot i did find out, is that both solicitors gave up rather quickly after i pointed 2 a few facts... as i sed earlier that i did have a solicitor up until few days ago 2 which i told solicitor i will not b requirin services and that i will b goin as a L.I.P. & 2 inform the other party's involved... then yesterday i sent MY 1ST email 2 the ex's solicitor statin that i'm taken on case personally as a L.I.P. and that they shud get incontact with her old solicitor 2 verify wot i put in the email ( a private 4 point bullentin ) and this at the end " that if u or ur client try and take me 4 harrasment/intimidation or any other legal pursuit in court, then i shall be wanting the time/date & court and well in advance as i have the right to represent myself within that case to prove my innocence and have a fair trail by jury under common law if i shall feel the need "
THIS IS THE REPLY I GOT BACK WITHIN 2HOURS MAX ---

Dear Mr ---------

I acknowledge receipt of your two e-mails dated 23rd May 2012.

Please note that I have been instructed to close my file of papers. I shall send copies of your e-mails to my client.

At this stage therefore, please direct any future correspondence direct to my client at her home address.

Yours faithfully,

so hopefully by this second time the ex mite understand and hopefully do wot is rite 4 our babies and all our life's happier bless them all ( :

my pineal gland speex 4 itself & is sumtimes misunderstood ( :

[2ez]

hi,
just 4t i'd tellya update 2 dis matta, well the ex is talkin nice, let me stay for our sons 1st bday blesshim, writt me a letter out for havin our babies 4 da weekends and generally couldnt do enuff for me blessher n yep i'm still shocked at the qik turnaround of her attitude, but just hope this stays this way much love all ( :